Each person has distinctive character traits, habits and beliefs, and the discrepancy between these parameters can lead to conflicts and misunderstanding. Misunderstanding of each other can be formed both on the basis of everyday life and on the basis of political or religious views. And these problems need to be solved - learning to interact, adapt and even learn to conflict, only to do it in healthy ways.
How relationship therapy works
Relationship therapy is carried out exclusively on an outpatient basis and without the use of medications, only by methods of psychotherapy and family psychotherapy. It is based on helping the client to recognize his feelings and desires, to increase his self-esteem, to understand and to strengthen personal borders, learning to resist manipulation and techniques for resolving conflict without harming the parties. The timing of therapy depends on each specific case and the speed of progress.
Family members cannot look at conflicts without judgment, since they are often participants here themselves. This requires the help of a professional – a person who is not interested in the development of the situation on this or on another way, but he is only interested in helping the participants to learn how to interact correctly and get rid of negative attitudes, changing them to positive ones.
Family therapy includes 4 stages:
- Diagnostics (family diagnosis)
- Ending family disagreements
- Maintaining new patterns of behaviour in family relationships.
When is family therapy needed?
In the life of every family or couple there are difficult stages and it is not always possible to go through them without negative consequences. The consequences can affect both the relationship itself and other aspects of life. The lack of a feeling of security, stability in one’s own family can even give an impetus to the development of diseases.
We recommend that you contact your family therapist in the following cases:
- you experience difficulties in resolving conflicts in the family or in relationships, it is difficult for you to agree about anything;
- a relative is suffering from emotional or mental illness and this affects family relationships;
- your child has difficulties with socialization, school performance or health (both mental and physical), psychosomatic diseases;
- there is no mutual understanding between family members;
- the number of family members has changed: a child was born, an adult child began to live separately, or one of the family members died – the family needs to adapt to the changed conditions.
TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP
In what situation psychotherapy helps
With the help of psychotherapy, partners or family members begin to learn to understand themselves, become aware of the motives of their actions, work through psychological trauma, defences and personal borders. As a result, relationships reach a new level, trust and true intimacy appear between family members. Destructive relationships can manifest themselves in different ways, the main motive is distrust, which, in turn, stems from trauma. A person who is in such a relationship most often does not realize this, and even if he does, he cannot independently change the model of behaviour developed over the years.
One of the types of destructive relationships is co-dependency. It is manifested by the need to control a partner, responsibility for his emotional state and a sense of guilt, lack of self-interest. One person seems to dissolve in another person, a merger takes place, there are no personal borders in such relationships. A person does not feel his own worth without a partner and these relationships.
Co-dependent relationships are a common problem, but it is far from trivial. Such relationships kill slowly every day – the person who is in them does not live quietly himself and does not allow his partner to grow. This type of relationship is common in families where there is a chemical addiction. With the help of psychotherapy, you can break the vicious circle of co-dependency and start living a full life, learn to value yourself, be aware of your feelings and independently satisfy your needs.
Another type of relationship where psychotherapy will be useful is the parent-child relationship. The conflict between generations is eternal, but in some families the period of growing up of a child is very difficult. Parents lose contact with their teenagers, feel themselves helpless, guilty, and ashamed of their child’s behaviour. This can lead to depression or other psychological disorders. But there is good news – a child’s psyche is more plastic than an adult, so, please, take an immediate action and visit a psychotherapist work out the relationships. Come for a consultation and learn to build a relationship with your child in a new way.
Psychotherapy helps to cope with conditions after divorce. Divorce is an event that, in terms of the degree of trauma, is equivalent to the death of a loved one. With the help of psychotherapy, divorce is the beginning of a new stage in life.